tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34186856.post934461232725907352..comments2023-10-11T23:57:10.585+11:00Comments on Ms Batville: Addressing miserableness in a colleagueMs Batvillehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01672111019053674212noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34186856.post-32264910658653955942008-08-12T19:56:00.000+10:002008-08-12T19:56:00.000+10:00Thanks jo - good advice.Thanks jo - good advice.Ms Batvillehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01672111019053674212noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34186856.post-4425581913745468752008-08-09T11:58:00.000+10:002008-08-09T11:58:00.000+10:00I personally don't think you are selfish or wrong....I personally don't think you are selfish or wrong. I think with situations like this, you need to consider yourself first because it could have negative consequences for you. You know he has help available and he hasn't taken it. His change will come when, and only when, he wants it. If you help him, you risk becoming dragged down by his attitude - do you really want to be the person he talks at? From your post, I think not. <BR/><BR/>I've been on his side of the fence before - hating myself and my life and talking at people about my problems. They listened and they tried to offer solutions, but all it did was indulge my behaviour. I needed to take responsibility for my problems instead of unloading them on other people. When I did that, my life changed for the better and his will too, if he's willing to look at himself honestlyphoenixmummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02250475400676676077noreply@blogger.com